We currently have a 40% to 50% divorce rate in the United States. This shows that divorce is an unfortunate fact of life and one that married couples need to be aware of.
While you don’t need to hope or plan for a divorce, you need to know that it’s a possibility, especially if some signs are present. When you recognize the signs, you may be able to fix your marriage before it’s too late or move toward the inevitable divorce.
Here are some signs that the end of a marriage is near.
1. You No Longer Like Each Other
Many people go through divorce and separation when they realize that they flat out no longer even like each other. While society always talking about love, “like” is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
When the butterflies come and go, the fact that the two of you like and respect each other is often enough to weather the storm and work things out. If you’re just tolerating each other, it’s a red flag that divorce might be imminent.
2. Money Issues Are Compounding
Several couples file for divorce because they have serious money problems. Financial stability is a crucial part of life, and without it, you may have a difficult time taking care of your basic needs.
Money problems will magnify your other issues, sometimes to the point that you’re no longer willing to work them out.
3. The Intimacy Is Gone
Next to money, sexual intimacy is another make-or-break component of marriage. It’s what keeps the connection going and allows the two of you to grow your love in new and exciting ways.
Take note if you are no longer intimate or if the intimacy has seriously waned. Many people today live in a sexless marriage, which can take a toll on your emotional health. It’s one of the most serious relationship issues that married couples of all years go through.
4. It’s Becoming Spiteful and Abusive
When the marriage really goes left, it can become abusive on both ends. Many only think of spousal abuse as one person battering the other, but emotional abuse, disrespect, and contempt can come in a lot of forms.
Respect needs to be a common denominator, and it sometimes goes out the window when people stick around in dying relationships. This is unhealthy for both parties and is a reason to expedite the divorce.
5. You’re No Longer Willing to Make an Effort
Finally, apathy is one of the death knells of a marriage. If you simply don’t even care anymore, it’s probably time to pick up the phone and call a divorce lawyer. This happens when spouses are emotionally tapped out and are just existing together.
You always need to be willing to put the effort in, even if it takes a lot of hard work.
Recognize the End of a Marriage
These are some telltale signs that the end of a marriage is approaching. When you think divorce is imminent, make sure that you have the help of some lawyers that can look out for you.
The law offices of Miller Zeiderman LLP would be happy to assist you with your legal needs. If you’re ready to get in touch, contact us on our website, or call us at (212)769-3500 in Manhattan, (914)455-1000 in White Plains, and (203)496-8888 in Greenwich.